To Every One Who Didn't Wake Up To Mushy Texts

To be really honest, it's been forever now that I've woken up to mushy texts and sweet good morning messages. Yes, I do miss it. What I really miss is someone else reassuring me about the fact that I'm pretty or how they love my smile or that I should have a good day. 

Do I really need someone to tell me all that now? 
I know we all grew up with the urge to feel a sense of belonging with society. There's a time when suddenly everyone you know is either going to the gym, playing sports, or just simply colouring their hair red or green. So you wonder if you should try it too right? May be because someone said it may suit you and that you may just become more gorgeous. That thought just somehow comforts you even though you may really not be up for it. 

So at this point, suddenly when everyone is going out on dates and having boyfriends, you decide you should probably at least have one good date a month right? I mean, it's ok. Good food, some movie, tons of ice cream and cheesecake, also if it's a quintessential date, if you're a girl, you wouldn't even have to pay for it. So FREE FOOD! we all run in that direction. Then the routine starts, those heart emoticons on your phone, those late night conversations, that one statement from him/ her that makes you feel like you're the prettiest thing on this planet. 

Let's step back for a bit, ever wondered what is it that makes those people say those things? It's obviously not an invisible trait as someone can see it. Also sure that you'll have at least a handful of people who agree with that particular statement. So may be it's true? Now you start noticing that about yourself too? 
Good, notice it. It's right there. May be it just took someone to point that out to you, but it's already there, and has been there for the longest time. Appreciate it. 

May be a couple of weeks later, this special person is not going to be around to tell you all this. That sure doesn't mean these facts stop being true. May be replay it in your head if that makes you feel better? but smile, because it's true. Love that about you. Start falling in love. 

We all learn about love from movies and books and various other means. It's always how to love and compliment someone else. We never learn to love ourselves easily. 
So stop being hard on yourself. If someone left you because you had bushy eye brows or a big tummy, let them leave, love your tummy more! That food and tummy is what makes you happy. If they are that shallow, they aren't worth the time anyway. 

Don't let a text determine how important or how beautiful you are. That a facts are always there. Sometimes invisible, sometimes visible. You're gorgeous! Flaunt that great smile, go dance around with that tummy and see how it giggles, laugh at it. That makes you happy, so be it! 
No one needs to tell you to have a good day. It's going to be a good day anyway, & if it's not, the next one sure will be :D   



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