It Gets Real

That rosy picture, it won't stay for too long.
NO, you are not always going to be a chirpy mood. You're not always going to play along. People have got to make peace with that.


It's time to be unapologetic.

For how long will you do things just to fit in? just so that no body will give you a very hard time?

Stop playing along. Stop putting up that nice face to people whom you actually don't care about. Stop talking to someone, if that's what you really want. Don't take crap from anyone, just because they are your superior or someone older. Any sort of sexual abuse, make a noise.

Be unapologetic.
Be honest.

If they can't take it, that's not your problem anymore.

If someone doesn't like your frizzy hair in the morning when you wake up, leave.
If someone has the problem with how many people you talk to, walk away.
If someone has a problem because you don't eat something they like, pick another restaurant and eat your favourite food.
If you job is terrible, leave. you'' find another one.

It's time you live your life the way you want. Break those rules if you have to.
Don't be sorry for your actions.  Take a stand and just be comfortable in your own skin. Go fall in love, this time, with yourself. You're worth it.

Love your frizzy hair, your oversized shirts and sweatpants. They make you, you. it couldn't get any better right?

Be unapologetic. Be you.


P.S.    It makes me sad to see so many people sticking on to things they don't like, only because social protocol demands it.
Please leave if you have to, it's only gets better after you do.






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